Sometimes it’s easy to get bogged down in the sadness of what’s happening. I think I especially take the burden on when I see my dad cry or have to leave knowing he’ll just sit there staring at the wall. So today is about humor! Matt and I are going out to visit him and we think dad’s childhood friend Dennis and his wife Bonnie will be stopping by as well. We are going to get a book of cheesy knock knock jokes, mabye a few dirty jokes, stuff I know he’ll love. Let’s get him laughing and maybe that will make the rest of his day great!
If nothing else, I know my dad still gets humor and loves to laugh. I got my sense of humor from my dad. He grew up watching Chaplin and Keaton and would teach me their moves. Now I can use those moves on him! It’s very important to keep an Alzheimer’s patient engaged. Sitting down with them face to face, looking them in the eye and giving them a chance to say what’s swimming around in their head. But it’s also very important to keep them in high spirits. My dad is taking anti-depression medication which really kills me since he’s always been a very happy guy. I know it’s the disease but I want to make sure my dad feels happiness while he still can.
Whenever I arrive at the home I always call my mom and my Aunt Cookie, my dad’s sister he lived with prior to being in the home, to let dad speak with them. When I called yesterday, Cookie had been napping and sounds pretty sick. I said, “Hey Chuck!” truly thinking it was my Uncle Chuck, and when I told dad my mistake he laughed harder than I’d seen him laugh since we picked him up. It was awesome.
I won’t be able to stop the disease but we can make him happy while he’s at his most scared and alone.
And now it’s off to Long Island once again. This time I’ll have Matt to keep me company. I don’t know how I’d do all this without him, Kelsey or her fiance Frank. We’re all in this together! Support is the key which is another reason why I started this blog. I’ve already been contacted by a few friends and acquaintances and their support just makes my day that much easier. If you’re going through something similar or something just as hard but completely different, I urge you to start a dialogue about it with whomever you can. It really does make a world of difference.
Have a great day!!